How much do you show you love yourself? I’m guessing that your self-love often takes a backseat in your life. You take care of everyone around you, but forget about own needs, desires and physical and emotional health. Stop reading if I’m wrong.
Lets change that today with some great self-care tools.
Self-care is one of the most important practices you’ll ever learn. If you are an individual that is happy, relaxed, empowered and in tune with yourself and your needs, you can then live live to the fullest.
We all have our own self love practices and different times in our lives may call for different practices. Be creative and open to have a whole tool kit ready for you to come to when you’re tired, stressed, overwhelmed, or simply in need of some serious self-love.
I’ve compiled a few ideas to help you start your journey to more peaceful life.
Feed your mind with positivity.
Living in a world full of constant violence and negativity, it can be hard to find the silver lining. By feeding your mind with all kinds of positive statements about life, yourself and the world, you will be subtly changing your thoughts and your entire mindset. You will feel empowered, more relaxed and at peace with who you are and what you want.
Start by writing 3 nice things about yourself. Daily. I’ll start for you. You are smart, you are beautiful, you are capable.
When you let your creativity flow freely, you can release tension, let go of resentment, anger and blame and everything else that is keeping you from living freely and fully.
So I encourage you to put some music on and paint, scrapbook, write, sing, play an instrument, dance and express yourself in whatever you want.
Don’t judge yourself and your art, simply accpet it for exactly what it is: yours.
Sleep is the most important and most neglected. We get busy, working late, kids, spouses, partners, parents, the list goes on. We go to bed late, wake up early and then drag through the days. 7 hours of sleep is a must if you want to be well-balanced, in a good moo and function at your highest level.
Plan an at-home spa day.
No need to spurlge on an all inclusive spa treatment neither. Have breakfast in bed, soak yourself in a long, hot bath, give yourself a massage, paint your nails, pluck your eyebrows, apply a face mask, do a natural body scrub and take a well deserved nap.
You will feel energized, renewed, relaxed and more grounded.
Create yourself a sanctuary.
Somewhere you can retreat to when alone time is needed is crucial for our soul. Create a space to your own likings with colors of your choice, ambience.
Having your own sanctuary, in which you can withdraw when you need some alone time is balm for your soul. Create it after your own likings with the colors of your choice, the decoration that soothes and comforts you whenever you feel down. If you do it right, you will feel safe, taken care of, loved and at peace the moment you step into your little haven.
Stay in bed and read.
Treat yourself to a day in bed with a good book, escape into the world of your favorite author and lose yourself in the story of the hero of the novel.
Practice mindfulness or meditation.
Give yourself the treat of 15 minutes a day to just be. Let your thoughts pass by without holding on to them and focus on your breathing.
If meditation is too big a goal for you, then practice mindfulness by focusing on the things you see, hear and feel. Be in the moment and let all thoughts of the past or the future be overwritten by the reality that is right in front of you.
Yoga is amazing for your body, mind and soul. Your body wants movement, needs movement and is happy whenever you give it just that. When doing yoga, you’ll be able to connect your mind with the sequence of asanas and you’ll be deeply in tune with your body and the universe. It’s a great spiritual practice and something I won’t want to do without anymore.
Learn to say no.
Having firm boundaries is one of the hardest things to have, especially if you’re a born people pleaser and who isn’t, right? But saying no, even if it feels uncomfortable at first, is crucial when you’re serious about honoring yourself. Always saying yes, always being there for others means always putting yourself last. Now, that goes against everything that self-love is about. So, say no to others more often and say yes to yourself.
Start something new.
Starting a new hobby or journey engages your mind in many ways and releases the happiness hormone dopamine. Take up a pleasurable activity that you’ve always wanted to try to see how rewarding it is. Pursue a new road in your life and notice how empowered you’ll be.
Declutter your home.
Having a lot of clutter in your home weighs down your mind and your mood. Taking a day to get rid of everything you don’t need, wear or use will lighten your emotional baggage and free up space for something new.
Get some fresh air. Walk the dog, walk the kids, walk yourself. Go for a hike. Sit outside for a minute. The more fresh air you get, the more oxygen you will breathe which will increase the amount of serotonin (the happy hormone) you inhale, consequently making you happier.
Drink some water.
Without hydration, your body can’t run efficiently. Drinking water helps regulate your body temperature, aids in digestion, and rids the body of toxins. Staying hydrated also helps lower stress, keeps your weight in check, and allows your muscles and organs, including your heart, to work properly. Some benefits to drinking water for your mental health include:
- Dehydration can negatively impact your mood.
- Not drinking enough water affects your ability to retain memory.
- Decreased brain performance is related to dehydration.
- Not drinking enough water can cause you to feel exhausted.
- People also report increased feelings of anxiety when they do not drink enough water.
Be you with all the perfect imperfections and flaws you have. You’re enough the way you are. There’s nothing more destructive than pretending to be someone you’re not and constantly going after the approval of others. Instead, focus on being who you’re meant to be and being unquestionably proud of it.
Do you have a favorite self-care tool? Please be sure to share it with us.
Rosadela Durruthy is founder of She’s Got Lupus, a non profit organization aimed to improve the lives of those living with chronic illnesses by advocating for mental health, healthy living and raising awareness.